If not us... then who?

Lots of people say think we're crazy and most of the time I believe them. We don't have enough time, patience, money, or room to be foster parents... We already have four kids, why do we think we can handle more. I'm not going to lie, the past two weeks have been challenging. Chaos is probably a better word for it. But this morning, I watched a 3 year old boy (that we've known for only 2 weeks) crawl under my husband's arm and say, "Daddy, protect me." I watched my husband wrap his arm around him and quietly reassure him that he would protect him.
We might not be perfect parents. We might not be independently wealthy.  My four kids might have to deal with some extra challenges and inconveniences of two additional children. But if it's one thing my sweet husband and this 3 year boy reminded me is that these scared, unsure children are desperately seeking two main things: love and protection.

I think that's what makes my husband a real man... a man who would be willing to deal with the chaos, inconvenience, and challenges of foster care to offer this little guy and his sister two things they need: love and protection. If not us... then who will?

Wholly Committed

We've been through it once already.  You would think it would be easier this time.  However, the training to become an approved foster home isn't about convenience.  Listening to all the stories and potential difficult situations we must prepare for can be alarming (even if we've heard them before).  The difference this time around has been our resolve.  Joey and I know it can and will be hard.  We know that some of our friends and our family may think we are crazy.  We know it's going to be chaotic and messy and full of interruptions and disappointment. So why are we going to do foster care?

When Faith first came to our home at the end of September 2010, she had little knowledge of what steps we had to go through to bring her home.  I'm sure someone may have explained the process to her, but seeing it from this perspective is completely different.  As Joey and I were sitting in one of our four hour training sessions last week, my sweet 18 year old daughter sent me a simple text, "Is it worth it?" 

As I look back and read where we were almost three years ago, I am amazed at God's fingerprints in our lives.  Love compels us and His power enables us.  The reason we are putting ourselves and our family through the  laborious process of becoming a foster home is simply because He asked.  Our reason three years ago still resonates deep with us today. (see below)

From August 24, 2010


Recently I was driving in my car.  I was headed home and thinking about the whole adoption process.  I'm not going to lie, it can be very frustrating.  We are constantly waiting.  Hurry up and wait, hurry up and wait.  Just when I think we are getting close to the end, the time frame stretches longer and longer.  Anyway, I was driving in my car and one of my favorite songs came on, "For the Sake of the Call" by Steven Curtis Chapman.   There is a part in the song that says,

We will abandon it all for the sake of the call

No other reason at all but the sake of the call

Wholly devoted to live and to die

Not for the sake of a creed or a cause

Not for a dream or a promise

Simply because it is Jesus who called

And if we believe we'll obey

It hit me how hard this whole journey is going to be. But we didn't do it for a dream or a promise that we would have a perfect little family. Being foster/adoptive parents, we have to abandon everything (my comfort level, my fears, my time plan, my convenience, my perception of a perfect family, even the approval of our friends and family). We abandon everything simply because he called. No other reason. If you're like me then lots of people will say, "Well, if God is calling you to do this, then I'm sure everything will be fine." I'm learning that is not true. We don't do things on the promise that situations will be easy or "fine"... we are simply doing this because he called us to. I'd like to think that we are brave for doing that. No, things will definitely be hard.  Just like the disciples faced a hard life by following Christ, our lives are changed significantly by making that same choice. Our choice will affect our close friends and our family. But like the song says,

Nobody stood and applauded them

So they knew from the start

This road would not lead to fame

All they really knew for sure

Was Jesus had called to them

He said "come follow Me" and they came

With reckless abandon, they came

Empty nets lying there at the water's edge

Told a story that few could believe

And none could explain

How some crazy fisherman agreed to go where Jesus went

With no thought to what they would gain

For Jesus had called them by name

And they answered...

We will abandon it all for the sake of the call

No other reason at all but the sake of the call

Wholly devoted to live and to die for the sake of the call

The sake of the call

Drawn like the rivers are drawn to the sea

There's no turning back, for the water cannot help but flow

Once we hear the Savior's call, we'll follow wherever He leads

Because of the love He has shown

And because He has called us to go

We will answer...

Fast Forward

It's been awhile.  Fast forward 11 months and you will find a different scene in the McGuire family.  Several hundred miles later, Joey and I are still running and the kids are starting to enjoy it too.  Who would have thought that 365 days could lead to such a change?  Well, I'm just glad that we stuck with the C25K program.  Next weekend, Joey and I will run in our second half marathon.  Who knows where we will be in another year, but one thing is certain... we won't be standing still! 

Excuses

As a teacher, mom, and human being, I hear excuses all the time. "I'm too tired." "I don't know how." "It's too hard, I don't understand." The always entertaining, "The dog ate it."

No one likes to be around a whiner. And even though I know this, I find myself making excuses for not exercising. Well, no more! The family has decided to participate in a 5K in April. Joey and I started a C25K training program. I'll be honest, it's tough. Most of the time we don't feel like running, we're exhausted, and we're too busy. But teaching our children (and ourselves) that we are called to live a life free from excuses is important. So, Joey and I are fighting through the pain and trying trying to show ourselves (and the kids) that most of the time, the best goals require lots of hard work.